Agenda for the 21st Century
All children born should have been wanted, or at least accepted, by both man & woman when they had sex.
The aim is that "all children born were wanted, or at least accepted, by both man & woman when they had sex". Note "accepted" - this page does not make the stronger statement that the couple should have been "trying for a baby". (This is not a "planned parenthood" web site!)
Examples of those cases that should be eliminated include:
The reason, as far as this web site is concerned, for eliminating the examples identified above is that they all put an unnecessary load on the child support system, or add unwanted complications to it. There are other reasons as well, such as typically poorer outcomes for the children, and the unfairness of duping men (or boys) into paying for what is essentially the mothers' hobby.
The strains & complications for the child support system include fairly obvious effects:
Eliminating such problem cases will:
The most obvious winners are children and most fathers. By extension, "society" will benefit because of the reduced conflict. Women who respect their partner's wishes, or who also don't want a child to result from this sex, will not be affected.
The most obvious losers will be women who want to have children when their male partners haven't agreed to become the fathers of those children. (Such women are in the minority, but there is evidence that they DO exist). But that is a pretty contemptible attitude for women to have, and it is difficult to have sympathy with such women. A second set of losers will be fathers who would like to make the excuse that when they had sex they didn't want children, just recreation. Once this technology is available, they will have to face the question "if you didn't want a child, why didn't you use a suitable male contraceptive?" There will be no useful answer (just "I was being stupid at the time"). They will pay for their stupidity for perhaps 16 or 18 years!
The main means advocated here is simply the next generation of male contraceptives
- safe, reliable, reversible, and unobtrusive. See also:
In spite of many arguments from men's groups in favour of "Choice For Men" (also known as C4M or "Male Abortion"), I have never seen a credible proposal for an acceptable scheme, or a proposal that has a plausible chance of ever being legislated for in the UK. It is too late after conception for men to exercise a choice over whether they are prepared to support or bring up the child. It is neither acceptable for a woman to be pressured into having an abortion, not for a child to be brought up with one parent opting-out completely.
In fact, this page makes a stronger point - it will be very important, once the next generation of male contraceptives becomes available, that men have every motivation to use them and not leave contraception to the woman unless he really accepts the possibility of becoming a father. There must be no "get out" - although there are no signs that men are about to be provided with one anyway.
In summary, the actions needed are those that:
There are some issues. For example, to do with under aged children and the availability of such contraceptives, and possibly parental imposition.
It takes many nails to build a crib, but one screw to fill it
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